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Mwale · 1 year ago

I really like your advice. Am just from ending a 3 year relationship because my now ex-girlfriend went abroud for good. I completely forgot how to start over.

ehsan · 1 year ago

i have the same problem t

ehsan · 1 year ago

i like ur 10 things

Bria · 1 year ago

when I read this to my brother he felt more confident and proud of himself of getting girls. I guess I know what your think "why is this little girl reading this letter for men" well, I'm reading this because my brother is terrible at getting girls to like him. I really love this letter because it makes not only my brother happy it makes other men happy

David Tugutu · 1 year ago

It Is real very impressive,i never knew about these things,..you are have opened my eye,it's like i was totally blind in this things!..thanks!

john · 1 year ago

Yes, I am at least 'rusty' if not downright inept in most relationships and would be interested in any ideas you may have to tuneup my situation.

rohan · 1 year ago

How an where the hell did ya found the time for all this, God bless, you are everyfella's best mate.

Oscar · 1 year ago

This is great...
I really hope this'll put me back on track. I had a girl... who I thought was the one... and after we split, I went into a state of depression. I could always hide it, but it always crept back into my mind...

I am finally over it, im trying to find someone to fill that hole I have till this day...

I really do hope the newsletters/book help. I want to get rid of the shy, and insecure feelings that Ive made a habit of...

I am only 14, but its never too early I suppose

Randall · 1 year ago

My cousin may do well to hear this from a perfect stranger!

Thanks

Anthony · 1 year ago

David, If you don't mind, could you please answer this question and scenerio I have. I have been dating this woman for roughly a month now and I feel that I am falling into the friend zone based on me being too nice. She's very attractive and is somewhat of a free spirit. She's admitted that her relationships have been short and she enjoys the begining phase of the relationship. I can tell she likes me because she's always available when I call her and I have spent a few nights at her apartment in her bed. But this has been a first. I'm over 40 and she's 30. I have never spent the night in a woman's bed and there was no sex involved. She did say at the beginning that she'd been dating awhile and she didn't want to be so quickly given to the sex. My problem might be that I actually believed it and began conforming to it. I'm showing all the signs of being too nice. I mean.. all the signs. I've cooked for her, before I come over I find out if she needs anything and bring it, I've given her gifts, and most of all, I am available when she calls. Amidst of all of that I feel I'm losing ground instead of gaining. And i need to change up the program before its too late because I do like her. I'm feeling that I want to back off a bit and make myself not so available and definately not sleep in her bed unless we have a reason to. David, what ever advice you have will be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

Lynda@6:33P.M. · 1 year ago

Hi Anthony,
From a woman's viewpoint,there's nothing wrong about being NICE to a lady. We like nice guys --- that shows us that you guys don't have sex on your minds all the time. I think it's good that you ask her if she needs anything before you show up. Here's a scenario to prove my point: You know she's in the midst of fixing chili(also spelled with two "l"s)for supper,you show up without checking with her,she says,"Oh,Anthony! I wish you'd called,I'm out of Chili Powder,and that's one of the main ingredients. Would you please go and buy some? Thank you!"
See my point? Now,I know that I could've said,"go and get some",but using the word "get" could be construed as
"steal"--- and THAT would deffinetly NOT be good. She wouldn't be getting her Chili Powder for supper,would she?!
Have you ever noticed that that(repeated on purpose) is the way some people talk? I have. As far as sleeping with her(sex or not),you should have more control,because you KNOW the urge is there. I used to think the same way until my boyfriend opened my eyes,so to speak. Of course ,it never happened because he was in Colordo. This may seem like it's off-topic,but it's just af little off the beaten path --- but it's still connected to the next part of your being nice: your gift-giving.
Anthony,if you E-mail me back,please tell me more about her(if you're still with her,ie,if you haven't moved on). The reason I'm requesting to know more about her is be-cause I sell products that you may be interested in buying for her. To name a few items to get an idea of what I sell: jewelry,windchimes,garden tools(not rakes or shovels --just small things),garden stakes,birdhouses,
birdbaths,birdfeeders,tables,curtains,bath & body(like shower gel,body scrubs,lotions,those spongy things on a
rope,& those wooden foot massagers). Most women like things like those. I guarantee you,we have high quality products. The last batch of items I mentioned comes in baskets,wire caddys,or just in shrunk to fit plastic. Smells good too! I think she would like our products as a gift from you. Please let me know. I'll tell you more later.
I have a delemma on my hands(this should probably be addressed to David(I just noticed the clock on my computer ---it's 8:23!),my bowling partner owes me a birthday lunch for printing some articles pertaining to some of his ailments,well instead of him buying me more paper,I suggested for him to take me out for my birthday,& he said he would. Now he's being afraid that his "lady-friend" will see him with me,& be hurt,& he doesn't want to hurt her,so he is renigging on his(my) birthday present(the lunch). It originally was to be for supper,but I told him lunch would be ok. I told him yesterday that he should be up front with her,& tell her that he owes his captain a birthday lunch. His response,"I don't want to mess it up". He keeps telling me that they're only friends. Have you ever done that? How can I convince him of taking me for my birthday lunch? I'm NOT giving up! Another sugestion? I told him on his answering machine that I couldn't take "no" for an answer. I guess I'll have to tell him that the next time we bowl.
Sorry to be so long winded. I DO get carried away --- more times than not.
One more thing before I submit this E-mail,and that the reason I started to read David's article is to get an insight on what you guys' body language to we women.
Bye for now.
Yodeling

Natashia · 1 year ago

Wow! I have to say you pretty much nailed it. I am an attractive woman and I do get approached often. I always tend to like the guys that have a life going on...and just pay little attention to me. The others guys seem too desparate. The gift thing is pretty annoying as well. That just screams desparation. So guys...just keep it cool...we like that :)

derek · 1 year ago

i dated this girl that i knew since high school, i was in the friend zone with her for a little wile but then we hooked up and it was perfect but then she broke up with me a few months after and and hooked up with some chump that treats her like crap a couple months after and we still see each other from time to time and i still love her with all my heart and she's showing signs of wanting to be back with me but for some reason i keep pushing her away. should i even try to get back with her?

daniel · 1 year ago

I like your tips,they make seance

Ray · 1 year ago

I have enjoyed your news letters, and yet still curious on the cocky humor side of attraction. I have used her conversations to spark up laughter in mid stream of her talking.
Seems to enjoy my smart ass remarks, like the push and pull program and of course I have gotten up to leave with confidence and leave her hanging with ?????
Is this a correct thing to do?

alfonso · 12 months ago

my girl is to menfull ... let me exp.. to me what iam talkig about is that i have to say everything she want ... if i don't she gets realy mand but what do you think i shoud do with her ... i do live her and i want to sty with her but she control me to much what can i do to tell her to do what i want...

Farouk M. Sa'ad · 12 months ago

They r all real coz i saw some mistake i usually made nd also d solutn 2 them.

Plat · 12 months ago

I honestly like the list, but I'm in High School and at my school, a lot of that simply doesn't apply.

I thought my last girlfriend was all I ever needed, but she left me. It took a while to get over, and I still think about it a lot (it's been over half a year). I've been looking for someone else; however, they're either not my type (I mean they are superficial, and I'm not) or I can't find a way to ask them out (again, my High School doesn't offer a good way for that).

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Yo mamma · 12 months ago

I was just wondering why it seems like everyone who posts a comment on a page like this can neither spell nor voice their opinion in an articulate manner. Think about it. Try not to sound like such imbeciles and quit destroying the English language.

Mr. Aaberg · 12 months ago

To derek:

Hey derek, I'll bet you that if you ignore her she will contact you. Women are imposible to read, so dont even barher. Just wait for her, she will come crawling back.

/Aaberg

mz.loveable(: · 12 months ago

omg! who ever is yo mamma is such a HYPOCRITE how you say that people are destroying the english language and have your name be yo mamma is so stupid!!!


LOVE ME!!!
(:

just a girl · 12 months ago

Being nice doesn't MAKE a woman choose you, but it will not prevent her either. The tips are allright, but life just never is that black and white. And love also just happens. I think a mans awareness on subjects above is useful to the extent that they do not overdo themselves.. it comes down to being yourself and don't beat yourself up about it if a girl isn't romantically interested in you and you are. What feels like being about love is about lust the first period of time anyways.. well thats what I think... and sexual attraction is so random .. no need to make it personal.

I bet I would know if some guy would be artificial in his conduct towards me. And I doubt that every guy has the talent to master the "tricks" to be attractive. I say bet your money on working on your self confidence, just get out of the house more often and act natural. Don't think too much about getting a girl or you WILL be desperate and we smell that off you.

Wurlay · 12 months ago

I have been calling a girl for a year.but i don't know how to approach her.

Alan · 12 months ago

Why are there no negative comments here?

Richard · 12 months ago

I have been going out with this girl for a year now,i have being nice to her,take her out many times,supported her so many times.i told her i like and want her to be my girl friend.she always tell me no but if i don"t call her or don't pick her calls; she get angry and she always demanding things from me. my question is what do i do? please help. thanks

Johnny Recaro · 12 months ago

Dear David,

All my life I lived in the same place. And there's a big phenomenon about women in my town. You see, these houses were made 40 years ago, so our grandparents bought them. Now, our parents don't have to pay for the house, so they bought car, cable TV, etc. so money status went up. Now, my generation don't have to pay for anything, dig it? Status went so high that if I don't own a car, women simply consider me a loser. And instead of getting out of town and get a life, they still marry with the neighbor! This is what they want? So you see, all my life I lived in the mistake #7... and I'm sick of it. So I'm asking for help. I can't live like this anymore.

Dawn /very cofused · 11 months ago

I have a ? for you. How can I tell If a man who is very shy is interested in me?We shoot pool on the same team 2 nites aweek.He is always very,very,nice.I have noticed a change in him when he hugs and kisses me goonite.He went from the cheek to the lips ,and he shakes when he hugs me.We`ve had eye contact, if he sees me across the room he waves and smiles.But for 6 months thats all we do. what should i do?

shaney · 11 months ago

what a load of utter bollox. if anything, this just confirms how hell bent men are on manipulating women. if youre a guy reading this take no notice it smacks of self help books and believe me the reason attractive women are attacted to 'average' guys is probably because they were actually 'nice'. so get over it. this is insulting.

Haroonz · 11 months ago

2 all yo out there jst be natural we ar who we ar. meanwhile der's nothing like ignorance bt gravity percentage nd quantities of wiseness.

a frustrated woman in love · 11 months ago

Hello and thank you for the world of information your are so willing to share. my situation is quite a bit different. My boyfriend is the love of my life. I am however extremely frustrated with his inability and lack of desire to learn about being intimate. He says he has tried , but in previously relationships with women he SAID he couldn't trust. He claims to trust me and love me more than anyone but is heavily commited to his ideal of intimacy makes him nervous or uncomfortable etc. If we have sex I am always the initiater I am always on top. He squirms if I kiss him more than a peck and refuses to touch me or look at me in without clothes on. Let me first reassure I am not fat and disgusting I get a lot of looks and offer but my bf is so much fun and he is responsible works hard all that good stuff , but as a woman I am dying I feel like I am starving. I would pound him through the floor is he would hold still. How do I reach him ??? How do I approach the conversation without hurting his ego. I know he fantasizes but he would never admit it. I have offered him a wide variety of options which most men will give a nut for, all of which he declines. What to do?

a frustrated woman in love · 11 months ago

Dear Richard coming from a woman it sounds as though this woman your are persuing is quite spoiled. My advice is to begin being unavailable to her wishes. Unless you don't mind being used. You sound like a great guy that deserves to be loved and appreciated by a great girl.

Jason · 11 months ago

Yeah...I have done sum of these mistakes
With girls.....

Kamil Wiktorowski · 11 months ago

David, I would like to say thank you for all the hard work you've done here and that you offering free help couse it's unusual these days!!!
I Will use some of your tips for sure:)
You are a top man:P

James · 11 months ago

(Lynda @ 6:33pm) hey Lynda and everyone,i will realy appreciate it if u help me on my problem.I mean how to get a girlfriend,how to draw attention 4rm people and sorts.U knw what i mean.Plz HELP

Jimmy · 11 months ago

How to get a girl and be with them... is all about the game :D
When u got the girl... the most important thing u can do is to UNDERSTAND them and make them feel special... Gifts and dinner is not the way to their hearts.
and dont try to give ya woman advice when she is talking about her problems... i know its hard for us to understand... but just listening and be there for her and comfort her when she is down.

george · 11 months ago

nice tips

Diane Aldred · 11 months ago

I Feel that woman like a man with a slow hand but a little in control.I diffently know that stimulating women does excited and turns on a man also that dirty talking brings on arousement.It is important to be gentle with each other but to have a playful meaningful orgasmic time.Make sex fun.
Stimulate each other often. Fore playing for a period of time is very plesureble along with you and her talking dirty to each other. Enjoy each tohers body.

Cortez · 11 months ago

I am very interested with a certain women who is extremely beautiful, we have been talking on the phone 4 about 5 months now,never been intimate, I'm seperated, she's divorced, she has three kids, I have none...she has a nice personality for the most part, but at times when I'm talking to her on the phone she tells me that she's going to call me back, but I don't hear back from her sometimes for a few days. I don't want to question as to why, but it is starting to make me a little uncomfortable, I don't want to play myself and appear possesive because I'm really not. What should I do?

Robert · 11 months ago

My problem is, is that I am a wealthy millionaire and I seem to attract golddigger's. Without buying a junk car and renting a studio apartment, how do I find a lady that doesnt see $$$ sign's and see's me for who I really am w/o being taken for a $$$ ride?

need help · 11 months ago

i need help i just started talking to this girl that just broke up with her boyfirend. i have knowen this girl 4 a while but we never chilled or anything just talked here and there. now we are starting to hang out more and she has really opened up to me. i feel every time im with her i get more and more feelings for her. because we have alot in comin with each other. but the bad thing is that she cries over her ex who just used her to get wat he wanted and dumped her. its only been a week since they broke up and im not tring to rush anything but i feel that with her telling me everything that she has been through she only see me as a good friend

chris · 11 months ago

I have the same problems. Sometimes my confidence goes out the window.I'm so in love with my girlfriend, that I'm afraid she might just walk away with the next tom, dick or harry. Even though i know she won't. She is the most beautiful woman i have been with.She lives with me.I'm so insecure that i have to know where she is going.I aint rich or handsome.My ugly ex wife showed up at my place 3 months ago.While my beautiful new girlfriend was with me on the couch watching a new movie.My ex isnt in my life anymore.She showed up at my place to let me know that she knows i have a new beautiful lady in my life.My ex wifes excuse to coming to my place was that she lost her divorce papers and needed new copys.I told her to beat it. My new girlfriend didnt need to see that ugly woman. I mean she was so ugly head to toe. When i first married her i had low selfestem and settled for the ugliest woman i saw because i knew no one else would touch her ugly ass.then i caught my ex wife cheating on me 10 different times.until i ended it 1 yr ago.after my divorce i started dating hugh obese woman like my ex wife 400lbs.physco obes woman are not all there in the head. 400lb woman stalked me lots.5 months ago i met my new girlfriend.I thought she was hotter than hell when i first met her.i never thought a guy like me could have a beautiful woman like her.before my girlfriend now the woman i used to be with were severely loose down in their panties.Hell my ex wife had my whole fist in her.to turn on my ex wife she and i were swingers. a cucumber inside her was getting bad.im glad im with new girlfriend she is so tight i cum instantly.when i was with my ex wife i couldnt get a hard on 7 years.she was so ugly i just couldnt.

nneka · 11 months ago

thanks for making me a member of the netlog,i appreciate.

nneka · 11 months ago

Thanks

Joseph · 11 months ago

This is really a good write up most especially being the fact that am from Nigeria(africa) i want to ask a question to every girl/Woman reading this. "do u prefer? Reply to my mail pls
bluekisspink@yahoo.com

Zedi373 · 11 months ago

A human person is not an object of experiment,neither can you gauge him and put a standard of measure on how to behave and be in a relationship.One mans plan, cannot work for another and so be it in a different situation and as far as the persons social status can take. as far as someone is able to be nice guy or be a bad boy dosn't matter, so long as there is a gravitation attraction between the two birds in love or to be in love. Guys! every person has a gift to attract and be attracted it only up to you to fulfill what you are made of.Take care not to follow advices blindly but wisely and prudently, for You can... Yes you can only if you believe it.

Otherwise thank you David for your advice for it improves the peoples insight as far as relatioship is concerned, for there are many enslaved people in love without knowing it.

Liz · 11 months ago

I really liked all the things you wrote because it will definitely be important information for men who do not know what to do with a woman!

They just have to be themselves and natural making us feel like any other man. Believe it or not, that's what makes a woman say... Yes! Just do it, guys! Good luck!

Bill · 11 months ago

I am going to try your tips tomorrow morning to a girl and I think I see her 1 time a day on a school day.and I have question this girl lives about 1.5mi from my house and I can ride my bike to her house and I'm thinking that would be weird of met to.and this girl I like gas a friend that's 1 year younger than her and her freind always gets on my nerve and what should I tell that girl that's annoying.

Bill Kisby · 8 months ago

I feel like a total sack, i've been chasing this girld round for ages and its getting me knowehre, I NEED HELP!! i cant control my self and end up tugging several times a day and it STINKS!!!

A.M. · 8 months ago

All-Right David, this stuff works.

I have been pouring over your materials since my girl-friend dumped me less than 2 weeks ago. I wanted to implement all the things I was learning asap. I have been hanging out with male and female friends that I did not really know that well. That being the case I was practicing on them, by teasing the girls and being the leader with the guys. After I "got it" as you say, the behavior of being a real man came quite naturally to me. So, I found my self in a social situation with some new friends, and some friends of my x-girl friend. My goal here was to show the friends of my "x", that I was fine, happy and out having fun. So I was sort of mock-flirting with one of the girls. This girls is considerably younger than me, and I really thought nothing of busting on her and teasing her etc. Later that evening, she much to my surprise, was doing the lean-in on me trying to kiss me. Later that evening she asked if I wanted to stop by for a night cap. In her
apartment she jumped me! I used many of your recommended techniques in the bedroom as well. It's all the INNER GAME as you say.

Also, practicing on the women at work, they all seem much more responsive to me as well.

Your teachings are the missing link for me. I am a nice guy, but I need to stimulate a woman as if I''m a bad boy.
If I do this successfully, I will hold her attention and attraction, and really I will be doing her a service saving her
from getting together with a true jerk.

WOW!!!

Thanks!!!!

Tim · 8 months ago

Awesome post, great help for guys, and the main thing, do not rush....or try to impress a girl by taking them out to a fancy restruant, try like wanna go to a chinesse restruant? like wok box or w/e. NOTTHING BIG,

Grig · 8 months ago

This stuff changed my life. I highly recommend to try David's programs. He has programs for every taste and level.